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Why a Woman Authoring a Book on Male Sexual Abuse?

When being interviewed, I am often made aware of how strange it was to see a woman authoring a book on male sexual abuse... In case you are curious…here’s an explanation of how I came to care about male survivor issues: Prior to becoming a psychologist I was an RCMP...

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What to Do if Someone Discloses Abuse

Abuse. Make time and space for them to privately discuss their abuse for as long as they need and as soon as possible. Pick your time and location carefully, away from anyone around whom they don’t feel safe. Ensure they know that there are professionals who can help...

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Warning Signs in Children/Youth

As a psychologist discussing male victims of sexual abuse one of the most common questions I am asked is: What are the warning signs I might see in a child? Although there aren’t any tell-tale signs a child is being abused, young children may try to tell adults about...

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Understanding Grooming Techniques

Grooming techniques are deliberate acts and gestures which offenders, especially preferential child molesters, often engaged in. The deeds, gestures and activities which are perfectly legal and not harmful in themselves, are later recognized as their offenders...

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Understanding Child Sex Offenders

To better appreciate the prevalence of male sexual abuse it may be helpful to understand sexual offenders. Despite public awareness that strangers aren’t the only people parents need to worry about in regard to protecting their children, many people still struggle to...

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Sibling Abuse

A man recently contacted me wanting help processing aspects of his sibling abuse. He mentioned no one talks about this, so I thought I would! Sibling “abuse” is not uncommon in environments where other sexual abuse is occurring. It could look like any of the following...

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Males Reluctance to Seek Help

Research indicates that men are less likely to seek help for psychological problems than women (Addis & Mahalik, 2003; Lane & Addis, 2005). Addis and Mahalik, who examined the social construction of masculinity and how it affected help-seeking behavior,...

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Male Survivors and Imperfect Families

I just want to do a shout out to everyone out there with imperfect families! During this time of physical isolation (aka social distancing) when people are engaging in chats about the “upside” of the pandemic…like how nice it is to finally to slow down, and to be...

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Do you know of a boy who seemed to be a great kid

Do you know of a boy who seemed to be a great kid, then suddenly “went off the rails”? Children don’t have DRAMATIC changes in character or direction without a reason… Sometimes changes can be coping mechanisms to deal with issues that they don’t feel comfortable...

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